The Science of Lasting Love
Affinitee is built on decades of relationship research to help you find genuine, lasting connections.
The Gottman Method
Over 40 years of research with 3,000+ couples
Our questionnaire is inspired by the research of Drs. John and Julie Gottman, world-renowned psychologists who have spent over four decades studying what makes relationships succeed or fail.
Their "Sound Relationship House" theory identifies the key building blocks of lasting partnerships:
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Deep UnderstandingBuilding Love Maps
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Mutual RespectFondness & Admiration
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Emotional ConnectionTurning Toward
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Communication StyleManaging Conflict
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Shared Life GoalsMaking Dreams Come True
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Shared MeaningCreating Shared Meaning
The Gottman Method has been validated in numerous peer-reviewed studies, demonstrating its ability to predict relationship outcomes with over 90% accuracy.
Why Swiping Doesn't Work
The problem with modern dating apps
Most dating apps rely on surface-level attraction—photos and brief bios—leading to matches based on looks rather than compatibility. Research shows this approach has significant drawbacks:
Swipe-Based Apps
- • Focus on physical appearance
- • Minimal information about values
- • Decision fatigue from endless options
- • Low conversion to actual relationships
Affinitee Approach
- • Deep compatibility assessment
- • Values and lifestyle alignment
- • Curated, meaningful matches
- • Foundation for lasting connection
By investing 10-15 minutes in our questionnaire, you're providing the data needed to find someone who truly aligns with your values, communication style, and life goals.
10 Dimensions of Compatibility
Our questionnaire explores every facet of relationship success:
Scientific References
Estimating the Validity and Reliability of Gottman Questionnaires of Couple Trust Measurement — Academic study validating Gottman's assessment methodology.
Additional research available at gottman.com