Three Ways to Connect
Curated events, personalized matchmaking or a direct chat: every path leads to a meaningful connection.
Everything you need to find a meaningful, lasting connection.
Connection Meetups
Attend curated local events and activities to meet compatible singles face-to-face in a relaxed, social setting.
Personalized Matchmaking
Our expert matchmakers work closely with you to understand what you're looking for and introduce you to the right person.
Instant Chat, On Your Terms
Message your compatible matches the moment you're ready. Only verified profiles can reach you, and you always decide who stays.
Our Science of Lasting Love
Affinitee is built on decades of relationship research to help you find genuine, lasting connections.
The Gottman Method
Over 40 years of research with 3,000+ couples
Our questionnaire is inspired by the research of Drs. John and Julie Gottman, world-renowned psychologists who have spent over four decades studying what makes relationships succeed or fail.
Their "Sound Relationship House" theory identifies the key building blocks of lasting partnerships:
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Deep UnderstandingBuilding Love Maps
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Mutual RespectFondness & Admiration
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Emotional ConnectionTurning Toward
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Communication StyleManaging Conflict
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Shared Life GoalsMaking Dreams Come True
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Shared MeaningCreating Shared Meaning
The Gottman Method comes out of decades of research on what makes relationships last, and is widely used in couples therapy. Our questions draw on the same constructs.
Why Swiping Doesn't Work
The problem with modern dating apps
Most dating apps rely on surface-level attraction (photos and brief bios), leading to matches based on looks rather than compatibility. Research shows this approach has significant drawbacks:
Swipe-Based Apps
- • Focus on physical appearance
- • Minimal information about values
- • Decision fatigue from endless options
- • Low conversion to actual relationships
Affinitee Approach
- • Deep compatibility assessment
- • Values and lifestyle alignment
- • Curated, meaningful matches
- • Foundation for lasting connection
Roughly 10 minutes on the questionnaire is enough for us to find someone who matches your values, your communication style and the direction you want your life to take.
10 Dimensions of Compatibility
Our questionnaire explores every facet of relationship success:
Scientific References
Estimating the Validity and Reliability of Gottman Questionnaires of Couple Trust Measurement Academic study validating Gottman's assessment methodology.
Additional research available at gottman.com